The societal focus on body image and expectations of a woman’s body has become alarmingly apparent to me during my 8 months of pregnancy. Everyone has an opinion of the weight you are gaining, or the weight you are not gaining.
Comments range from “You can’t be 6 months pregnant” to “The only places I can notice you’ve gained weight is in your stomach and your face.” And more recently I have been asked, “How much weight have you gained?”
The attention on the human body is twice as magnified during pregnancy than any other time (or so I have experienced). I will receive comments about eating a casserole because it has too much sodium, or drinking a slight amount of caffeine because that’s “just not safe for the baby.”
Never before have people commented on my weight; because that is considered to be rude. However, when the human body is growing ANOTHER human body, it is all of the sudden acceptable to make comments all of the time. My personal favorite is when someone said they were positive I was having a girl because my hips and butt had widened. What might be the worst part about it all is that everyone does it with a smile on their face (and all of these comments have been made by WOMEN). Apparently because I am pregnant I do not care that my body is changing and my feelings cannot get hurt.
Trust me, I know this is all for the best cause imaginable and I cannot wait to meet my daughter, but it’s still insane to me the amount of attention that is given to OMG WEIGHT GAIN. And, the most shocking part about it is I’m actually right on track for desired weight gain during pregnancy (give or take a few pounds). I now have a whole new appreciation for what people did to Kim Kardashian and Jessica Simpson during their pregnancies. How awful.
More than anything, this has taught me some vital components on how to raise a daughter. I will do everything to make sure that she knows that she is beautiful and perfect just the way she is. Her worth will not be based on her body type or weight. And, I truly hope that our society can get to a place where we can all feel this way no matter what may be occurring in our life.
Woman: You are having a girl aren't you?
Me: Yes, I am.
Woman: I knew it. I was walking behind you and could tell that you were pregnant from behind. That's always a sure sign.
I haven’t had many strong cravings, but lately I’ve been all about watermelon and cheese. Ironically enough, those are both items that someone brought into the office today to share.
Friday morning, you are starting off just right.